Relationships are great until one decides to dump the other for some valid (or invalid) reason. Girls, who are more sensitive and emotional than guys, often take the blow of a breakup pretty hard, unless they are the ones who started the breakup. But of course, girls are also more optimistic than men.

Do your best not to call him

Don’t seem desperate by calling him every hour. You won’t get it back by scaring it. Stalker tendencies sometimes cause men to distance themselves further from their ex-girlfriends. If he calls, call. It may take some time, but that’s why patience is a virtue.

Learn to compromise to make the new relationship work

Try to talk about the problems of your past relationship. Were there recurring problems? Is it because you are quite selfish and don’t want your man to go out with his friends? Is it always your way or the highway?

Because if it is, maybe that’s one of the reasons you broke up. If you and your man are ready to have a heart-to-heart about trying to fix the relationship, then go ahead and be prepared to compromise.

Don’t ever beg or beg, please

Begging and pleading is so passé. Carrie Bradshaw will sell all of her Manolo Blahniks of hers first before begging a guy to take her back. Or did she do it once? Anyway, please take me back talks are embarrassing and not worth mush. It will only make you look pitiful to your ex-boyfriend.

Give yourself time

Now that you’re not in a relationship, you have all the time to go to the salon to get your hair done. Browse your bookshelves for titles you haven’t read yet. Do some volunteer work. Anything to distract you from the breakup.

Reassess your value in the relationship

Not being part of the relationship allows you to see it from an outsider’s point of view. What were your strongest points, your weakest? What role did you usually play, the boss, the superior or most dominant, or the recipient of all the love and care?

Reassessing your role in the relationship will give you the leverage you need when you talk about it with your ex.

Make your friends stay out of this situation.

Some men are very private and prefer to keep personal matters between him and his partner. Even if you’re not together anymore, don’t talk about your problems and your plans to get him back with your friends. While friends can help you work things out, he may be more appreciative if you stop dating your friends.

New girlfriend, no problem!

Sure, the news of a new girlfriend will blow your mind no matter how many times you say everything is fine. But fear not. If her relationship came right after yours without any time lapse, chances are she’s just a rebound girl, someone who can hang out with him while he takes care of her broken heart.