I was recently browsing a Seddit thread when I came across a question about PUA texting. What I learned is that even in 2014, men are still afraid of texting+. Makes sense, all that amazing connection you had in person is now limited to the little 0s and 1s flying towards your smartphone. To say that text is a limited medium would be an understatement. To say it would be a game killer is to rationalize your lack of understanding.

Actually, texting isn’t about getting him to like you, you should have done that before you broke up when you first met*. In this article, I’m going to explain why we use text games, what their purpose is, and give you examples of texts you can use to revive a dying conversation.

Let’s talk about how to text women and keep them engaged.

The three elements of the solid text game

Before I even text, I want to take a moment to recognize the three elements for the best possible results. These are:

  • sexual tension

  • Access

  • Appreciation and Recognition (Qualification)

These are the building blocks for her wanting to keep the interaction going, with the sexual tension turning her on, the connection making her deeper than the superficial attraction, and you showing more value by focusing on who she is, not what she looks like.

Mastering them is beyond the scope of this article, but I guarantee if you’re not receiving text messages, then you’re not aligned in one of these three areas.

time and frequency

Time is extremely important in our modern age, wait too long and you will forget. Get in people’s faces and no one wants anything to do with you. The sexier a girl is, the more things are going on. You need to jump right into her life and become a fixture of hers quickly.

Text the next day, waiting three days is for those who are too needy. Your subsequent text messages can match the speed of their text messages, this is an easy rule of thumb to make sure you’re calibrated. If you and her text frequently, then you can call her and stop texting to set up a date.

how much and dead air

Many guys get stuck in the paradigm of more is better. When we text, we should aim for quality content over quantity. Sending too many texts makes you too available, lessens scarcity. Instead, consider stopping texting at a high point and leave her hanging for a few hours. You were busy and had things to do besides text him.

Make yourself precious and rare and she will want to hang out with you just so she can get your attention. That is a powerful position for you to be in.

Delighted

Truly this is where most men go wrong, we should avoid boring conversations and keep them emotionally attractive, we talk about taking care of the three main elements before getting the previous number. If you did, then all you need to do is keep her emotionally engaged. Your emotions tied to your meeting fade away without that emotional commitment. The same thing happens to all of us, over time we retain memories, but the feelings go away and women trust their feelings.

The quickest way to start a conversation is to tease her, accuse her of something silly, tell her she’s taking you out to dinner to show chivalry isn’t dead. The tease doesn’t matter, all that matters is how attractive he is and that the emotional stimulation is the lubricant of the conversation.

Once you understand that you can switch between teasing, being sexual, and playing her HARD. The greater the range of emotions you feel, the more convincing you become. This can be a scary process if you don’t know what you’re doing. Sometimes I have to fight for my students to be great because they worry so much about screwing it up:

Dave: Text her: “I just met your twin”

Student: She responded with… “Haha no way, where were you?”

David: Good. Say, “That would be revealing, I’m also pretty sure you’re the bad guy.”

Student: He hasn’t responded to the text yet.

Dave: Okay, just wait.

Student: Okay, he just texted “Shh, don’t tell anyone.”

Dave: Hahaha. Good response from him.

Student: Yeah… What’s my next move sensei?

Dave: thinking about it

Dave: I’m thinking “You know, it’s probably because your last boyfriend didn’t spank you hard enough.”

Student: I say that?!

Student She’ll think all I want to do is sleep with her.

Dave: Yeah, we want to see how you’ll respond to sexual text messages. It’s a good indicator of where she is.

Dave: To be fair, you do.

Student: No, I’m looking for a girlfriend.

Dave: Ah, I should have explained. The more you like a girl, the faster you should sleep with her.

Student: Hahaha.

Student: OK, she replied, “Really? I’ve found that I respond better with rewards instead of punishments.”

Student:?

Student: Can I still ask if we’re having Pad Thai tonight?

David: No!

Dave: call her

Dave: charm her

Dave: Then ask her out.

Student: Call her?

Student: He didn’t answer.

dave: oh too bad. Give it a few hours and then we’ll start texting again.

Student: She wrote: “I’m finishing some work right now, can I call you in a minute?”

Student: And I’m going to play basketball and have lunch.

Dave: You can leave it at that and we’ll reassess after lunch.

Student: It’s okay.

Student: OK, should I text him?

Dave: Yeah. Tell her you’re done playing basketball and you can call her when she’s available.

Student: Hey, so she called me and I’ll pick her up at 7!

I love this example because it demonstrates the students’ fear of “taking the wrong step”, forcing them to be just like any other kid. Most guys bore her to death, stick to a very small area of ​​behavior, all predictable. We want to be different, we want to be a challenge.

The last thing I want to say about content is keep it short, if you can say it in one or two words then do it. Writing long messages shows that you are more interested than she is. KISS – Keep it simple Silly.

text openers

As promised, here is a list of simple openers you can use to get a girl to text you, with credit given where due:

  1. I just met your twin… (Credit Savoy)

  2. I found a rose at my door… you?

  3. The police are looking for a cute boy and a retard… I got caught, grab your crayons and run!

  4. This is your phone company, the vibrate feature is not designed to be used on the phone. that.

  5. I just want you to know that I used to be modest… but now I’ve worked on it, I’m perfect.

These five should get you going and if you have any good ones please leave them in the comments below, we would love to share and grow our list of amazing messages and stop men from being afraid of texting ever again.

Dates or Day 2!

Remember the goal is to see her in person, always text and move things forward from that perspective. Whenever you’re not sure how to proceed, remember that you want to meet with her. Think about what would bring you closer to that goal and never send a lame text, you have no reason to. If it takes hours to get to a big text, wait the three hours.

You’ll get a lot more dates that way.

* I know that in the countryside girls are dragged or have to leave, but these should be the exceptions, not the rule.

+ Seddit has a list of good text game resources HERE