Is it sadness or depression, or maybe physical pain is a part of your life that you find difficult to cope with?
Whether the pain is related to sadness or that of a broken bone, people are more likely to listen to someone who actually experienced what they feel, felt what they felt, or suffered the way they did or still do . I’m not for a minute suggesting that you ignore medical advice, but rather saying that in some cases, a shoulder to cry on is by far the best medicine.
I feel a bit hypocritical because I’m the complete opposite (no shoulder needed). I fight only my emotions and therefore others only hear what I want them to hear. But you… if you’re struggling to cope, reach out.
It’s frustrating when people don’t fully understand the extent of your sadness. But how can they tell if you’re repressing your feelings? Someone who can relate to all angles of your pain because they have been where you are, is also the best person to open up to. Pain is pain, so whether it’s your pain, his pain, her pain, their pain, it doesn’t change for each individual, it’s exactly the same for all of us, what differentiates individuals is our mechanisms of coping.
Sadness is a typical result of an unhappy event and can instigate depression. To avoid having to fight with both of them, you need to stop taking your sadness to bed, waking up sad, walking sad, or whatever. Such an emotion is often experienced after losing a loved one, either to death or circumstance… Sadly, shit happens, but it’s about making amends for a bad situation. Whether you blame God on high or someone else for your loss and for bringing you sadness, try to forgive them.
Forgiveness is a great form of therapy for a disturbed mind. The quicker you come to terms with what you have been and done, the faster you can move on and be happy again. There are most likely memories of those sad times that were hard for you to cope with, but hey, the past is the past.
Forgiveness… whether you give it or seek it, what does it matter as long as the pain is gone.
If there is space in your heart and you discover that you can do this, then you will realize that happiness will be much greater in your 2020 than sadness.