When you want a happy marriage, you need to find what brings the two of you together, like glue! This is the type of advice that has been handed down through the ages and when it is something that works, it is worth considering.
Each couple experiences a unique relationship, as no two people are the same. The attraction between you, your shared life together, and everything that goes into making your relationship is what will hold you together. But this is not all that makes your marriage stronger. You can’t afford to become complacent and think that now that you are married you don’t need to try as you are together for life, end of story. Make a happy marriage, have a happy marriage requires effort, time and commitment; it is not something that grows by itself. And as with anything that requires care and nurturing, there are steps necessary to make this happen.
Many people mistakenly think that getting married means that it is no longer necessary to ‘date’, wrong! With the stresses and strains of a busy home / work life, dating is even more critical than before. Both parties need to take a break from their routines to relax and reconnect and remind each other of the love they have for each other. They need time to play and let go of responsibilities temporarily and recharge their marriage / love battery. You can’t run continuously on a finite ‘tank of gas’, it eventually runs out and you have to refuel. You can’t run in a vacuum all the time and not take any damage!
Some people think that they should put their children and others first, but the most important thing in a child’s life is, above all, that their parents love each other. That is where the safety of a child lies. They need to see that their mom and dad love each other and take time to be together as well as take care of them. They need to see their parents as role models taking care of each other and their relationship so that they too can have a happy and healthy marriage as adults.
Communication is another area where two people can stick together or get stuck. Each party should have the feeling that their lover supports them and, even if they disagree, they will support the other with love and respect. Learn to actively listen to each other; You can’t give anyone a greater compliment than really listening and trying to understand what the other is saying. Good listening skills is something anyone can develop and it is wise to note that God gave us two ears and eyes, but only one mouth, so there must be something to that. Developing your own partner language and understanding each other is the way to unite a happy marriage.
I mentioned earlier about dating, well, if a couple rarely spends time together, they will loosen the bonds between them to the point where they drift away from each other until they are far apart. So, spend time together and not by watching TV, but by actively reconnecting with each other on a regular basis. If you have to, book a date between them and consider it as one that you have to pay a lot of money for to see this person, because it truly is the most valuable time you can spend with anyone. That is, if your marriage and partner are your number one priority!
And what about love? You know, the physical type …
After being together for a few years, the desire to be intimate most of the time disappears, but the attraction between you shouldn’t. You may need to push yourself a little harder and schedule romantic dates and even a weekend or two getaways every year, but go for it. The more you have sex and release those feel-good hormones, the more you’ll want to do it. This is a time when you can have fun and explore each other. It is a game moment that is exclusive only to the two of you, it is a part of yourself that you do not share with anyone else, so enjoy this special part of your relationship together. Don’t neglect it, and you’ll have a little more glue to bond with when you want a happy marriage.
At the time you were looking for your perfect match, you may have thought you would never find her, but finding her was easy compared to keeping your relationship happy and healthy. However, do not rely on your wedding vows to maintain your marriage, you should actively work on it little by little, day by day. If you want a happy marriage, you need to care for it as you would a beautiful flower garden, regularly and with the right ingredients at the right time.