Every couple has friends. However, some friendships transcend the usual family barbecues on a summer afternoon or the typical cocktail hour. Many of us find an attraction to other partners that can best be characterized as flirty and maybe even a bit sexual in nature. While there is no doubt that most have secretly wondered what it would be like to be more intimate with a member of the opposite sex in another couple, few act on it. The norms of most social groups generally prohibit this type of behavior.
The reason for this reluctance usually relates to the fact that a close friendship can be soured if a particularly playful member of a group makes their wishes known. However, under the right circumstances, it may be appropriate for couples to experiment with a more adventurous flavor of fun. While indicators that this may be a possibility can be elusive, common signs include a turn in the conversation to sexual topics, some light flirting between partners, and “innocent” touches received from a non-partner. Even if these indicators exist, there is still a risk that moving dinner to a sexier pace will turn off some members of the friend group.
In case you and your partner have discussed making your next party a little more adventurous, there are a variety of ways to approach the idea with friends. The first is to increase the level of sexy talk to gauge the receptivity of the other partner. Another method is to tell a story about a “you’ve heard of” couple who throw wild parties and may even be into swingers. A real favorite is to ask the group if they would like to play a naughty game after everyone has had a few drinks. A particularly wise friend once said, “Every couple is only three martinis away from swinging.” A fun way to set the mood is to suggest a drinking party or truth or dare game that multiple couples can play together. There will always be some daring members of the group who are interested in testing the limits of everyone’s comfort. Given the reaction to this over the course of the night, it may be acceptable to turn up the heat by introducing multi-partner sexual play.
Multi-partner sex games require a bit of advance planning in order to be carried out correctly. One of the most important elements is sexy and upbeat music. Barry White is definitely not a good idea. Instead, he considers a mix of clubs that will remind players of that night of debauchery they fondly remember from years ago. In addition, it is essential to provide a comfortable seating area that facilitates interaction and access to the game board itself. He remembers to dim the lights as everyone looks better in dim light and it creates a sexy vibe. Finally, based on the group’s potential for some really rowdy fun, having condoms or sex toys stashed nearby may make sense. Now let’s get to the really fun part: what multi-partner sex game to suggest?
It is quite common for the instigating partner to bring out a sex game designed for individual couples and then tweak the rules to make the game work for a group. Unfortunately, this is often difficult, and these games don’t spend a lot of time setting the mood or making the experience easier for the participants. As such, it makes sense to suggest a game where everyone is familiar with the rules. Consider Truth or Dare, Strip Poker, or Spin the Bottle as possible starters. Also, these games tend to keep things fairly light, and as a result, are the right approach for a first attempt at “playing”. Assuming the multiple couples present are very comfortable with each other, you may choose to suggest a game for swingers.
Multiple partner sex games and swinger games are essentially the same thing. The most important element in selecting a game in this category is considering the potential for actual exchange between the couples present. While there aren’t many swinger games on the market today, some assume that everyone who plays is fully into “The Lifestyle” and has no boundaries or inhibitions. This is fine if you are playing with other pairs that you have played with in the past. However, for those initially exploring the possibility, make sure the game you choose has enough flexibility to suit all preferences and levels of involvement. A great game will ensure that participants easily control the pace of the game without feeling like a “killjoy” if a challenge or question is out of their comfort level. In addition, it is essential that a sexual game in multiple partners allows the group to regulate the intensity of the game based on the wishes of the most conservative individual. To that end, a big rule of the house is that women are in charge of deciding how much to do and what limits are most appropriate for the session.
Make your next party or gathering memorable and fun by suggesting a variety of sex games for multiple partners. While there is some risk, you’ll have a good idea if this is right for you and your friends. Also, be sure to select the most appropriate game for the situation and group preferences.