Did you know that there are currently 33 million widows in India, some as young as 5 years old? These widows often have to live in separate communities and have no right to remarry and are often forced to beg. In the modern Western world, where divorce is as common as marriage (not that this is a bad thing, as you’ll see below), we may have forgotten that for many cultures, the concept of a woman having only “one “Divine right partner has serious physical ramifications.
Less insidious but no less limiting is the soulmate concept when it comes to the idea of ”the One.” As a person who has worked in the energy field for over a decade and having researched the Akashic records of many, it has always seemed cruel and untrue to me to think that a person has only 1 soulmate in life. What happens if the person dies? A friend’s brother is dealing with this concept now that he has just lost his wife after three years of marriage.
If you believe in the soulmate concept, I guess you probably believe in the soul concept as well. And if you believe in the concept of a soul, you can also believe that there is more to you than just the physical body, and if you believe that, then you can believe that there is a Source from which you were born. If you believe in a Source, what are the qualities of this Source? Do you have a limited range? Is it based on lack and fear? Or is it infinite, abundant, all-encompassing unconditional love?
When I look at people’s paths, if the person is single, I see a plethora of options if the person wants a relationship. And I have witnessed others who have had multiple loved ones throughout their lives. Makes sense doesn’t it? If the Universe is pure abundance, would there be an abundance of possibilities for a mate? While it’s romantic to think that the person you’re with is “the one,” you may want to ask yourself why you want to believe this idea.
For many people it has to do with the concepts of security and protection. There is often a fear that if there are a lot of options, what if I choose the “wrong” one, what if there is someone better? And then if you feel insecure, “what if no one else loves me?”
But if you were to believe that there is only One, then you would have to deal with another concept, “what if this person is the One and dies? Or if you have yet to find your “One”, then “what if I lost boat?”
There’s also this Twin Flame concept, which is an even more complicated premise. Here is the concept that very rarely, a twin flame (the first split of the energy that became your soul and theirs) incarnates. Well, let’s assume that this is true and that most people do not have their twin flames on the planet. Does that mean that their relationships aren’t really “all that” or that they don’t have the opportunity to have a truly phenomenal and ecstatic love life?
I’m passionate about this topic because I see too many women who allow fear to rule the reasons why they stay or don’t stay in a relationship for too long. I see too many women missing out on the time of their lives!
When we speak of “How your connection with the Divine will guide you towards ‘the One’, we are talking about your communing with the divine within. Once that communication is established, then ecstasy and self honor is complete.” the norm. AND THEN any romantic relationship that is drawn to this situation is joyous beyond words. This is not to say that the relationship is without contrast, life will always provide contrast as it is THE active ingredient in all of creation. However However, the more you are able to maintain that connection to the true joy that you are, the easier it will be to attract and maintain relationships (of all kinds) that are rooted in love, expansion, self-expression, and delight.
All my Love,
Pretty