Do you remember Seinfield?
Yes, the TV show.
(By the way, even decades after it was cancelled… people still love it!)
In any case…
A couple of days ago, I read a newsletter from one of my business mentors. He talked about a lesson he learned from that show. More specifically, from the episode in which George Costanza did everything backwards. And while the lesson was about marketing, it can also be applied to dating. Especially if you are looking for a high-quality, beautiful bride instead of a drunk one.
So…
There is a scene where George Costanza gets a job interview with the New York Yankees. Now, instead of kissing the owner’s ass, he told her the Yankees sucked. He also made sure to tell her WHY he believed all the landlord’s decisions were big mistakes.
They hired him on the spot!
Then there was this other scene, where he saw this hot and sexy girl having dinner alone. So he walked towards her. And instead of trying to be someone he’s not hers and trick her into going on a date, he told her that he was bald, short, didn’t have a job, and still lived with her parents. She immediately went on a date with him!
crazy is…
It’s the same with dating as an introvert. You see, dating is hard for introverts! Because most dating advice tries to turn introverts into extroverts and pushes them to present themselves as someone they’re not! And if that’s not enough, most dating techniques involve cheating, lying and manipulating women into relationships. It goes without saying that none of these will help you get a quality girlfriend.
And certainly not a long-term one!
I mean, what do you think happens once she finds out the guy is NOT who he “pretended” to be? That’s how it is! She leaves him!
Here is my point:
Let the other team follow that path.
Let the PUAs get the low-quality women and drop them after their “facade” collapses.
We will take the “opposite” approach.
Because doing the opposite of what everyone else is doing can give you a HUGE advantage with the ladies, especially the high-quality ones.
Try it.
You will really be surprised by the results.
Right now, you’re probably wondering, “what specific opposite things can I do?” Well… here’s something practical that you can apply in your next interaction with a woman. The next time you disagree with a woman, instead of changing your opinion to match hers and going into “me too” mode like most men do, just do the opposite!
Disagree with her!
You will see that by doing so, you actually create attraction! Because attraction is created when we break the relationship, not when we build it. And that is the problem. All our lives, we have been taught to build a good relationship with people. Our parents told us to be nice. At school they told us to be nice. At work, we are asked to be nice.
Really…
Think of any communication course you’ve ever taken at work. It’s about building rapport and making friends with people. But if all you ever do with a woman is befriend her…don’t be surprised when you land in her friend zone. So the next time your date tells you they like Harry Potter, don’t be afraid to tell them that he’s dumb!
Of course, don’t be rude!
As long as you do it playfully, with a cheeky smile on your face, you will notice that she will be more attracted to you!
I hope you enjoyed this article because that’s all I have for you today!