Teasing and denial, or “bordering” as it is sometimes called, is a pillar of male chastity.

In short, it means that a man gives control of his orgasms to his wife or girlfriend, that is, the decision about when, how, where and even Yes he orgasms is entirely up to her (and we’ll get back to “if” in a bit).

However, what it does not mean is that the man is deprived of all sexual pleasure, except the indirect pleasure of pleasing his beloved. In some relationships the man remains completely celibate and expresses his sexuality only through the orgasms of his partner, but that is something different from what I am talking about.

Because with male chastity, the man remains definitively celibate. In contrast, couples who practice male chastity tend to have more sexual contact rather than less.

No, what it means is that the man is brought to the point of orgasm, but is not allowed to go to the end; that’s why it’s called “bordering”, because they take you and keep you on the verge of orgasm.

Now to most women this would be incomprehensible, especially if they have ever experienced the frustration and even anger that most men show when they don’t get what they want. But the truth is that many, many men long for this. It goes way beyond the emotional toll of having a woman in charge: we’re talking here about men who literally love the feeling of needing to orgasm but aren’t allowed to.

As my husband, John, describes it, “it’s like being halfway to orgasm all the time“. I don’t pretend to fully understand this. As a woman, I enjoy my multiple orgasms and I can’t imagine any pleasure at all in being delayed or denied (and it feels terribly selfish to take great pleasure in denying them). of my husband, knowing that he needs to ejaculate but cannot until I allow him).

Which brings us to the inevitable question:

How long should you wait until orgasm?

Well, that depends.

It depends on what both of you have agreed and then on what you, your partner, decide.

Some couples who practice tease and denial have an agreed-upon cutoff or time, and that’s okay.

But many more men relinquish total control, which means they are willing to take the risk that their lady love will never let them come.

This sounds cruel, but believe me, it’s what many men secretly want. No, not ALL men want it, but in my experience, MOST men who admit to a desire for male chastity have permanent orgasm denial as their ultimate fantasy.

It’s possible?

OUI well south. There is absolutely no reason that I know of to say that any man has to orgasm, forever. There’s no convincing medical evidence to say it’s harmful, and it’s not like you’re forcing him to do it without his consent (he could cheat any time he wants, even if you have him locked in a chastity device and keep his key, he can cut it off if you want. There is no such thing as a 100% safe male chastity device. Anyone who says otherwise is a liar.)

And not only is it possible and, as far as we know, harmless, but it has many benefits, in terms of greater physical and emotional intimacy, better and more frequent sex, the pleasure of listening to your man beg for the release he knows he has. is. Never you are going to get, and the satisfaction of living your life knowing that your man loves you 24/7.

My personal opinion, developed over many years of practicing male chastity and orgasm denial with John, is that the best and most pleasurable results of teasing and orgasm denial come from longer periods of denial rather than shorter periods. .

Conclution

Everyone is different and makes their own decisions, but that is said every time readers ask me about my work.”How much time is better between orgasms?I encourage you to ultimately aim for permanent orgasm denial for your man, just as John and I are now pursuing.

Bottom line: Juan no need to orgasm for physical or mental health and our relationship is closer and more satisfying when he doesn’t, so I don’t see any benefit in allowing it.

If that hasn’t scared you away from begging your sweetheart for what you really want, then it’s worth finding out more about teasing and denial… but be careful what you wish for!