It would be wonderful if we were all perfect, but sadly we are not. We all make mistakes, and some are worse than others. The only mistake that causes more damage is infidelity. It doesn’t matter if you cheat on a girlfriend or a wife, the fact is that you are being very selfish and childish. There is only one way to make it up to your wife or girlfriend: end the relationship and give 100% loyalty to your wife or girlfriend because they are the ones you promised to be faithful to. The problem you are facing is that the other woman will probably care about you and you will hurt her too. Remember that it’s not her fault that you got into two relationships, so be careful how you end up with her.
It’s best to talk to her. Be as kind as possible. It will be very hard for her if she didn’t know you had a wife or a girlfriend. This is not going to be easy for you either, but you have to stop lying and cheating. Let her know that your relationship with her is over and that you won’t see her again and mean it.
If your lover knew that you have a girlfriend or wife, breaking up with her might be a little easier because you haven’t been lying to her. Make a clean break with her.
If you want your marriage or relationship to work, you have to break up with the other woman. This means that you should not send him messages or phone calls. You have to give your wife or girlfriend 100% loyalty and that means even in your mind. If you find that you still want your lover, you have not ended the relationship.
You have to start over, by this I mean delete his number from your phone, don’t keep his email address, return or get rid of any gifts he has given you. You are making a new beginning.
If you happen to put the woman to work make it clear to her that the relationship is over. It will be very difficult for both of them because they will see each other every day. The most important thing is not to cheat on her. Take your lunch break at a different time than hers and don’t go to the places you used to go together. Change your routine so you don’t trip over it. It is important to show her through her actions that the relationship is over.
You are the one who made the commitment to your wife or girlfriend and you will have to make it right because you were the one who broke it off. The only way you will be able to do this is by getting rid of the other woman and fully committing yourself to your wife.