You’ve been considering trying anal sex, but you weren’t sure you’d enjoy it.
Relax; The anus is full of sensitive nerve endings that feel amazing when stimulated with your tongue, finger, penis, or toy. Before engaging in anal sex, you must be fully prepared, mentally and physically. Foreplay before anal sex is not only fun, but absolutely necessary.
Here are our top ten tips for enjoying anal sex:
1. Cleanliness is… Important
You want all your intimate moments to be memorable, especially your anal sex experience. You just don’t want to remember any brown residue after your partner pulls out of your anus. This residue could be fecal matter and/or a combination of fecal matter and mucous membranes. There isn’t much you can do to eliminate mucous membranes, but you can control your bowel movements. Before engaging in anal sex, eat a high-fiber diet to keep your colon clean. Little time? Try using an anal douche or enema about an hour before intercourse. This will allow any remaining fluid from the enema or douche to flow out of your body making your experience more comfortable. Remember, you can jump into the shower afterwards to freshen up yourself and your partner.
2. Keep it moist
By wet, we mean your intestines. Drink plenty of water. This may sound silly, but when you don’t drink enough water, your body becomes dehydrated. Water hydrates the intestines and aids elimination by producing softer stools. If you are dehydrated, you may become constipated. Constipation = uncomfortable sex. Nobody wants sex to be uncomfortable.
3. LUBRICANT LUBRICANT LUBRICANT
We cannot stress this enough. Use a lot of lube. Unlike the vagina and mouth, the anus does not provide its own moisture. We recommend using a silicone based lubricant. Silicone lasts longer than water-based lubes and doesn’t dry out or get gross. If you are using a safe latex condom and it says “lubricated”, for anal sex, lubricant is not enough, so always add more.
4. foreplay
Before you and your partner start, play with your anus. Insert a well-lubricated object (just make sure it doesn’t have jagged edges, ie fingernails, damaged toys) inside you or have your partner massage the rim of your anus. When you’re both ready, consider exploring safe analingus (oral sex from the anus) with your partner; If you don’t have dental dams, you can cut a condom lengthwise and place it over the opening of the anus to protect against bacteria normally found in the anus.
5. Watch out for those signs!
The prospect of having anal sex is just as exciting for the giver as it is for the receiver. Make sure your partner proceeds with caution! When you’re ready, your anus will relax to let you know. Your partner should slowly insert a toy or his penis into you. A penis, even a toy, is a large object to insert into an anus, so be patient. It may seem like it’s taking forever to fully enter you, but the rewards are worth it. After anal foreplay and when you are relaxed enough, allow your partner to partially penetrate you, giving your body time to adjust to the size and fit. Breathe slowly until you are relaxed and feel yourself opening up more. When you open up more, allow your partner to dig deeper. If you need a break, have your partner pull out partially, then try to come back in by going deeper with each stroke.
6. The experience
If at any time during anal sex you feel extreme pain or discomfort, STOP. That is your body telling you that you are at risk of harm. Let your partner know that you need a break. Take some time, and when you’re ready, add more lube and do it.
7. Playtime
Another way to prepare for anal sex is to stretch your muscles yourself. You can use anal plugs. This is a wonderful way to easily welcome your partner into you.
8. Move
Anal sex doesn’t have to be done in just one position. It is crucial that you find the position that is most comfortable for you to receive your partner. For beginners to anal sex, try starting on your stomach. Once you have accepted your partner and pleasure takes over, change your position, you will be surprised to find that your anal sexual experience is more pleasurable in a different position than the one you had in the beginning.
9. Bathroom
If after enjoying anal sex you feel like going to the bathroom, go. Don’t force yourself.
10. Back to basics
After you and your partner revel in the pleasure of anal sex, you see some “leftovers,” don’t panic. this is natural. Go get cleaned up, better yet, make it the prelude to more. Shower together, clean each other up, and come back for more.