Never get emotionally attached to uncertain situations
One of the biggest mistakes men make is thinking that a woman they just met, who they are talking to, is safe. He does not know the motives of this woman or if she is worth his time.
Men have put themselves in bad situations because they thought a woman was safe, but she had ulterior motives. Things may appear to be going very well, but the woman may just be seeking attention. She may be flirting with you at the club, but she’s just trying to make her boyfriend, who’s a few feet away, jealous as the whole interaction unfolds. When he gets what he wants, he will leave you confused when he is not going home with you.
Being trapped in a woman (you’re not even in a relationship) is a recipe for disaster
This happens to men in the friend zone. They will build this friendship, hoping it will turn into a romantic relationship. Unfortunately, this girl is not interested because she has her eyes on other men whom she does not consider her friend. These men will get caught up in this girl and think that being “the one who is always there for her” is going to turn that friendship into a sexual relationship.
If you want women to like you, you have to act from a position of power. These men she dates are interested in them for a reason. There is something about these men that turns her on and it is not because they listen to all her problems.
This doesn’t mean that you can’t listen to a woman and comfort her, but it should be because you care about her, not to feign interest just to get into her pants. Women are very intuitive and they know that this is what he really wants to do, but they are too scared to let him know that this is what he really wants, so she will use this to her advantage and treat him like a shoulder to cry on when others. the men who really interest her do not treat her in a special way.
Why you shouldn’t confess your love for the person you like like they do in the movies
Have you ever seen those movies of the man who had a crush on this girl since they were in 3rd grade and confesses his love to her in a big, dramatic way? Just because women like the idea of this happening, they don’t want to be the girl this is happening to.
Why?
You have fantasy and reality.
Women like the IDEA of a man who confesses his love to her and makes her feel special. The reality is that women are very attracted to men who ignore them a bit.
Think of the IDEA of having 7 girlfriends (not “friends with benefits”) for each day of the week. This sounds like a big fantasy, but the reality is that you would burn out and find it difficult to keep all 7 girls happy.
A man who confesses his love for a woman in a dramatic way has transferred his power from him to her. Yes, you can be affectionate with your girlfriend or wife, but a woman with whom you did not establish a romantic relationship could be scared by such a dramatic situation.
Men who stay with the girl generally keep things simple and allow her to have all those emotions in her.
Do you wear your heart on your sleeve?
“I think this is it!”
Have you ever said that about all the women you know? When a man expects fireworks, it is because he has his heart on his sleeve. Men who are successful with women know and understand that it’s about controlling their emotions rather than being at their mercy.
“Why would you say that?”
Women are very emotional. They need men to keep that emotional energy ingrained. This is why many men who are overly emotional, even if they are “traditionally attractive,” put women off. Women get turned on by men who can connect with her emotionally, but are not victims of her emotions.
Sometimes rejection is a good thing
This is not something you want to hear right after you have been rejected by a woman who really attracts you. However, if you wonder, why did you like that woman in the first place?
Was it because she was pretty?
Was it because he had a good body?
Was he a nice person or did you just see how good he looked on the outside?
Once you took away her looks and how much you want to sleep with her, was it so bad to be rejected after all?
Don’t expect fireworks, but you want to get a result
Sometimes those results won’t be to your liking, but at least you know where you stand with this specific woman. The sooner you know, the better. I’m not saying the two of you can’t start building a relationship over time, but you’ll know when you focus on getting a result than waiting for fireworks.
Let’s say you tell a woman that you want to date her. She rejects you and says that you are not her type (she is very frank. Most women are not that frank). At least you’re not torturing yourself with uncertainty. If they reject you, at least you know it’s time to move on.
Even the most attractive and charismatic men don’t get the girl
If you are one of those men who thinks you are too ugly to have hot women, think again. Even the most attractive men are shunned and may even be overlooked for men who look like creatures of the swamp by general standards.
It’s not about how you look, it’s about how you make a woman feel. The point of this is to make her feel all these emotions for you. When you can control your emotions and how you interact with women, you will begin to notice that more and more women will be attracted to you. Your problem will be which one you will choose!