Where does the sex belong on your online dating profile? Sex has a different meaning for each person, but its importance in a healthy relationship cannot be denied.
When we evaluate this question, the first thing to do is find out what type of site you will be posting your profile on. If you’ve been researching the various sites available, you’ll notice that many of them cater to very specific customers.
There are all kinds of dating sites, from religious sites to sites that promote extramarital affairs, and each of the sites has members with different expectations. What works for your profile on Adult Friend Finder will definitely be a “no-no” on Big Church.
There are three areas on your online dating profile, and each one gives you a chance to “spice up” things. When you post an online profile, you assign yourself a username, post at least one photo of yourself, and write a quick profile (or sales ad) about yourself.
Let’s start with a username. This is your “handle” and is the name that others will use to communicate with you. Be very careful when choosing your name, but keep in mind that your choice will have an effect on how people perceive you.
If you chose a name like “Toy”, “SexKitten” or “HardBody69”, other members will have a preconceived notion of what your intentions are. They will think that you are more interested in having a good time than in finding a serious relationship. Depending on the site you’re using, this could be a good thing.
Next is your photo. Posting a photo of yourself is highly recommended, and research shows that the more you post, the better your profile will perform.
As you browse dating sites, you’ll notice that some profile pictures are much more provocative and revealing than others. These profiles get significantly more clicks and views, but are also discouraged by members looking for a long-term partner.
The final part is your profile. This is a written paragraph that portrays who you are. This is your sales pitch and it is your opportunity to express yourself in words. This area doesn’t have the immediate impact that your image or username does, but if you choose your words correctly it will help complete the big picture.
Here is one last point. If you are joining an online dating site to find a long-term partner, DO NOT include any mention of sex in your profile.
You’re trying to find as many good matches as possible, and the last thing you want to do is have people bypass your profile without contacting you because you seem too direct. There’s always time to talk about sex once you get to know someone a little better.